How We Help Couples
Dating websites extol the advantages of finding a partner based on compatibility. Well, even in the most compatible marriages, miscommunication, misunderstandings and lack of appreciation happens sooner or later.
Having problems in a relationship; small chronic ones like fighting about money, or big ones like infidelity is absolutely common and doesn't have to be a deal-breaker.
Important research by Dr. John and Julie Gottman has highlighted that even happily married couples married long-term fight and and have unresolved conflicts. The difference is that those couples who described themselves as happy have found ways to do conflict and know how to put problems in perspective. They understand that the way to work out issues is by talking about the issues openly and honestly and most importantly with respect and care for the other. Problems themselves are commonplace—every couple has them. It’s how they are handled that makes all the difference.
When you think about, marriage is going to be a challenge and a place of growth. Its two people who are different and are both (hopefully) growing, learning and changing. Growing pains will happen.
At Russell & Associates some of our therapists have taken training from the Gottman Institute which has scientifically researched what dynamics causes relationships to fail; and what dynamics cause relationships to thrive. Turns out that compatibility isn't everything. Love, patience and openness are very important too!
It is common for couples to need additional support at times and a safe place to explore the complicating issues that can arise along the way. Couples counseling focuses on the communication between you and your partner, learning how to verbalize your own needs as well as hear the needs of your partner. It provides the chance to reflect on your process as a couple and as individuals, understand obstacles that have developed, undo those obstacles and create stability. You and your partner can develop goals together and utilize the time to take responsibility to respect one another as well grow closer together.
Of course, marriage or couples relationships don't always work - for a variety of reasons. If that is your situation, the therapists at Russell & Associates can help to clarify that decision-making process and facilitate the ending of the relationship in a way that is most honoring and respectful to both people.
Contact us today to get the journey started.