How We Help With Sexual Issues in Relationships
It seems we live in a sex-obsessed culture. With all kinds of sexual messages around us, ironically sexual difficulties often go un-discussed and untreated. Erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, difficulty orgasming are physical concerns that frequently have a large emotional and psychological component. Further, guilt, shame over past sexual activities or current fantasies can also interfere with one's sexual well-being.
It has been said the a good sex life won't make a happy relationship, but a poor sexual relationship will create an unhappy relationship. Sex is like the mortar in a brick wall: it is a problem if it is missing, but you can't build a wall from just mortar! So, beyond the sexual dysfunctions named above, very frequently there are issues between the couple that get expressed in the bedroom; shame, body-image concerns, fears of vulnerability, fears of losing control, and these can have a significant negative affect on a couple's sex life.
What happens in therapy when the focus is sexual and intimacy issues
In some cases, it is evident that the sexual difficulties are signs or symptoms of something else that is not working well in the relationship. In this case, your therapist can help sort out the relationship dynamics that are underneath the sexual issues and improve both at the same time.
In other cases the sexual issue is simply the problem, in which case your therapist will help you improve that specific area.
Many couples experience the chronic strain of mismatched sexual appetite. One partner is interested frequently, and the other partner less interested or interested less frequently. This is a common but rarely discussed difficulty that can lead to overall marital dissatisfaction. Check out Esther Perel's discussion of sex within long-term relationships.
The therapists at Russell and Associates will sensitively and patiently walk with you through these topics and can bring understanding and education, and also bring real relief from the problems.